Kiss, Arousal, Sex: The Obama Overachiever Cure

While playing golf back in 2001, President George W. Bush was interrupted with urgent news: New York City’s Twin Towers were attacked and burned to the ground! Nevertheless, he insisted on 8-hours of sleep. Cross him and OMG his mother former First Lady Barbara Bush may have shown. Not so for President Barack Obama. Latest news reports has our current President averaging five to six hours of sleep. In fact, a few weeks ago on a long flight back from Oslo he admitted to members of the press: “I’m Tired.”

But the gravity of war did take its toll in other ways, writes Julie Pace for the Associated Press. “With this one, you feel it viscerally,” Obama said in a White House interview with ABC News. “You lose sleep. You think about families. You think about history.”

Although he may need a vacation, they say President Obama still thrives on a keeping a busy schedule and continues to scoff at critics who say he’s taken on too much in his first year. Obama often works late into the night, averaging five or six hours of sleep, but making do with less when need be. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091229/ap_on_go_pr_wh/us_tired_obama

Sources close to the White House say Mr Obama and his staff have been "overwhelmed" by the economic meltdown and have voiced concerns that the new president is not getting enough rest.

Little Sleep: The sign of an Overachiever

A not so well known study in the Netherlands looked at people with insomnia and found that they’re actually over-achievers. After making sure their subjects were deprived sleep, they tested them and found they performed well. The study concluded these people were hyper-aroused and this helped compensate for their brain tiredness.          http://www.abc.net.au/health/minutes/stories/2008/12/29/2447589.htm

I wanted to find out more about the overachiever indicator of Little Sleep and found a story about Yoshiro Nakamatsu who changed his name to Nakamats. He could be one of the most influential scientists of all time, but I’ve never heard of him. It’s reported that he has over 3,200 patents to his name, “leaving Thomas Edison in the dust.” He eats one meal per day and sleeps only four hours, while using one of his inventions: a chair that can “rest the body and sharpen the mind” when he needs it. So convinced is he of his invention, Nakamat has re-calculated his life span. He expects to live to be 144 years old.          http://www.asylum.com/2009/12/02/prolific-people-by-the-numbers-5-extreme-overachievers/

Then I found a news reports confirming that after the Senate held a 1 a.m. vote on health care last week, Obama stayed awake to see the results despite the fact he had a full schedule starting the next day before 8:00 a.m.

President Obama appears to be an overachiever.

Is the President thinking rationally? Is Obama being sensible? If you answered no, chances are our President is in fact an over-achiever. Here are some classic overachiever traits outlined by Performance Pyschologist John Eliot, Ph.D. You can find more details about his program and book Overachievement at:      (http://www.overachievement.com/ )

• Overachievement is counterintuitive. (Is that what happened to Obi Wan?)
• Overachievers don’t think reasonably, sensibly or rationally. (Is that what happened to the healthcare public option?)
• BE an exception. Overachievers thrive under pressure—welcome pressure, enjoy it and make it work to their advantage. (Most critics agree Obama has taken on too much in his first year.).
• Handle Failure. It’s not rejection that distinguishes achievers from nonachievers—it’s the way they handle failure. (Obama will not concede failure in healthcare reform.)
• Most successful people can share their weaknesses. They get excited about learning so they can turn weaknesses into strengths. ( In every speech, Obama highlights his flawed expectations and turns it into a strength and often White House proposals for reforms.).
• Arrogant S.O.B.s run the world. A performer can never have too much self-assurance. The best in every field are likely to strike most people as irrationally confident, but that’s how they got to the top. (Obama expects Afghanistan’s President Karzai to do as he is told and boot the corrupters out of office. Now!).
• Legends never say they’re sorry. High achievers dwell on what they do well—and spend very little time evaluating themselves and their performances. (Obama did not apologize for taking the Nobel Prize. He took it, noted the opposition, thanked folks and left the building.)
• The best need stress. Stress is the high-level performer’s Power Bar. (The President allowed Pentagon Generals to stress him out for 2-months before making a decision. He sent them back to the drawing board numerous times. He loved every minute of it.)
• Put the “I” in “team.” By definition, striving to be exceptional puts you outside the team. If you’re a maverick CEO, you’re a colorful genius. The best performers not only think exceptionally, they teach their colleagues to think that way too. (Some news media folk gained large salaries for counting how many times the President said “I” in speeches. Were they looking for a follower?)
• What limits? If you want to find out what you’re capable of, you can’t put limits on yourself, and you definitely can’t be cautious. (Despite the fact he’s had more death threats than any other President in modern history, Obama took 10 overseas trips in the first year and pumped up his own legislative schedule.)
• Only wimps weigh the risk. For exceptional people, risks equal rewards. The challenge of uncertainty is the fun of high-performance—and that’s where overachievement lies. (President Obama showed little interest in weighing the risk of pulling out of Afghanistan too soon until his mandate is met.)

The Role of the First Lady

But I had to find out more, especially about the role spouses play. Here’s some insight on overachievement and Little Sleep from Dr. Laura Berman, the Director of The Berman Center for women’s sexual health. A few years ago she told The Situation’s Tucker Carlson about how sex can help sleep deprivation. To begin Carlson asked: “Is there really a sleep crisis?”

“There really is,” Berman answered. “But I think the main reason people are sleepless is primarily because of stress and depression more than anything else. People are not having enough sex. And ironically, the amazing part is that sex can actually really help you with sleep .And it is a real issue because it becomes a vicious cycle.”

Before concluding the interview Carlson asked if Dr. Berman had any more tips. She answered:

“I actually just did a big study on intimacy and found that couples who kiss regularly and spontaneously not only have higher levels of intimacy, general intimacy, but also have decreased levels of stress and depression. So, try just kissing your partner more and cuddling them more.” http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11326819/

Another thing I learned in researching overachievers and Little Sleep is some overachiever behavior can be managed. Here’s a tip I found by emerrill a group member of ehow: http://www.ehow.com/how_2223766_manage-overachievers.html

“Try to prevent him from burning out. Overachievers lose track of time when they’re working. They aren’t trying to impress anyone with those late hours; they’re just in a dream state of total absorption in their task.”

So when the Senate wasn’t due to wrap up until 1 a.m., and the president was still fixated on C-Span, it was the First Lady’s responsibility to re-direct her husband’s interest (kissing, cuddling, etc) while reminding him that sitting up and waiting on a vote was what he hired his staff to do. “Rahm will brief you on the results at breakfast,” she should have responded.

But Dr. Berman and the ehow group members are speaking of people who have real love for one another. Frankly, since the inaguration, I haven’t seen the Obamas partake in general, family like intimacy? Michelle’s primary role as First Lady is to see about her husband’s physical and emotional well being. Sometimes standing by or around just won’t do. Besides, I believe it’s a poor commentary on the First Lady if her hubby whines to the press about how “tired” he is! Is Michelle down on her job?

In Search of the Kiss

Michelle is down in approval ratings according to recent Polls. Her score sank 11 points. http://www.eurweb.com/story/eur58330.cfm It seems, the American people are just not feeling Michelle Obama.   And, after a public “stinky feet” comment about the President, I’m not feeling Michelle Obama. I believe the American people are picking up on some negative things about Michelle. Are they beginning to believe that her relationship with him is all show and it’s just now being reflected in the polls? Our president obviously needs a good night’s sleep.  According to most sleep scientists there’s one non-prescriptive way Michelle can get our president (the overachiever) to take the deep snooze he deserves – Sex.

Now don’t get me wrong, Michelle appears as if she’s built for comfort, but this may not be enough to keep the flame between a Leo and a Capricorn alive. Michelle is a January Capricorn. Her Natal Sun is – Whoa! – in Opposition to Barack’s Natal Sun. Now without an exact birth time I cannot be definitive about the rising sign, but chances are Michelle’s Sun is rarely feeling Barack’s Sun. In fact, since March 2009 I’ve seen nothing of note that the spark still remains.

Check out this Christmas Video where it looks as if the couple are rehearsed.  In the video Obama reaches for Michelle’s knee.  I’m sure you’ll agree this was not what she wanted and her response was telling.                           http://www.examiner.com/x-/x-19673-Michelle-Obama-Examiner~y2009m12d22-Michelle-Obamas-Christmas-gift-for-Barack-Obama

In Search of Arousal

Even Clifford Bryan the reporter for the Michelle Obama Examiner has some misgivings:

“One inference that we’ve come up with is that without Michelle Obama; Barack Obama as we know him would cease to exist. This comes after careful examination of observable displays such as “fist bumps” in which President Obama participated in. We’ve come to the conclusion that these seemingly impromptu displays of solidarity are a little too well rehearsed. They don’t seem quite natural.” http://www.examiner.com/x-/x-19673-Michelle-Obama-Examiner~y2009m12d25-Did-Barack-Obama-and-Michelle-Obama-get-married-for-mostly-political-reasons-

If you follow the Examiner’s link, you’ll see what Clifford means by: They don’t seem quite natural. Like it or not, Obama has been working his job non-stop for weeks and needs a vacation. Michelle should appear anxious about getting away with her overachiever. Anyone who has dated an overachiever knows you have to compete with their constant I’ve got to win and finish before the other guy” arousals. Yet, on their way to Hawaii in photo after photo, he’s holding on to the kids. The only time they stand together is in public for Photo Ops.  How could anyone be convinced the President was on his way toward getting a good rest?

I don’t agree with everything Clifford Bryan says. Yet, after one year into the Obamas, I’m beginning to think that Clifford Bryan may be on to something and it’s not lots of hot, spicy love.

In Search of Sex

I’ve created a synastry chart delineation between Michelle and Barack. A synastry chart is a comparison of two or more natal charts in order to analyze the interaction of the individuals involved. My comparison may be flawed because I’ve not been able to determine Michelle’s exact time of birth and frankly – no one else has! An exact birth time determines the positioning of the Moon and the Rising Sign or Ascendant. For Michelle’s chart, which was caste at 12 Noon, her Ascendant is Taurus and her Midheaven is Capricorn.

Charting love begins with an examination of the Moon and Venus. If the Moon and Venus in the two charts favorably aspect each other, the two involved will find few obstacles in starting a relationship. However, for relationships to be longlasting, a slower planet like Saturn, Neptune and Pluto need to be involved. Remember the phrase: I love you but I’m not in love with you. In astrology its easy to determine the I love you part, but determining how much in love requires a steady anchor in the form of a slower planet. Below, I’ve listed the pros and cons of the synastry chart in a table.

Michelle and Barack: Relationship Pros and Cons

Intrigue and the Obamas: A delineation

For starters the Pros show that the relationship began out of love. This is indicated by good aspects involving the Moon, Venus, Sun and Mars (See items 1,2,3,4, and 5 under Pros). Michelle and Barack generally feel good about each other, share warm loving moments and are proud of each other. Most notable is Michelle’s Sun, Mars, and Midheaven conjunct Barack’s Jupiter (See item 6 under Pros).  This is an in love indicator. He brought great benefits to her career and ambitions. He was a great resource to her professionally. He also helped her reap her karmic benefits from hard work and self sacrifice. Likewise, Barack gained a great deal from Michelle’s superior legal knowledge. She enabled him to side step the numerous legal pitfalls and secret enemies that would befall a young ambitious politician. When they work, Michelle and Barack operate like a well oiled machine. But Barack may have insisted that Michelle take on a more subordinate feminine role in the family. This is noted by Barack’s Saturn conjunct Michelle’s Midheaven and Sun (See item 8 under Pros). Saturn says “I restrict.” While at times this new role felt a bit degrading, in the end it may have helped mold the couple’s persona and turn Barack’s ambitions into a worthwhile family investment.

Similarly, Michelle’s Saturn is conjunct Barack’s Ascendant (See item 7 under Pros).  This is an in love indicator. It’s easy to see that because of her feminine role in the family and her position as the breadwinner early on in Barack’s career, he acquiesced into giving Michelle a lot of power in decision making concerning the finances. This is a partial confirmation of Clifford Bryan’s observation that: “…without Michelle Obama; Barack Obama as we know him would cease to exist.”

Let’s take a look at Michelle’s Pluto conjunct Barack’s Vertex (See item 6 under Cons). Historically, a Pluto-Vertex coupling encourages people to take out loans. This is usually pursued in an attempt to transform a situation. If this is the case, Michelle probably was the key co-signer on important loans. With Michelle’s Saturn on Barack’s Ascendant she controlled his purse strings. In turn, it may have served as a stabilizing force for their family.

But I fear things didn’t evolve that easily. Let’s look at some of the Cons.  Remember, love is dependent on the slower moving planets in terms of longevity.

There’s little doubt that Barack’s role as an aspiring politician kept the income of the Obamas in flux thus forcing Michelle to be the primary breadwinner. Likewise, Michelle’s Jupiter quincunx Barack’s Vertex indicate incoming benefits and overall growth, but with a lot of vexing changes and adaptations along the way (See item 3 under Cons). Quincunxes force decisions between two opposing positions. Give and take affected this marriage in more ways then one.

Another startling Con in the Synastry is Michelle’s Midheaven and Sun opposing Barack’s Uranus conjunct North Node (See item 4 under Cons). This is a major showstopper! Barack’s Uranus conjunct North Node is his creative power center and feeds into his change agent role.  It makes him a creative and dynamic force to be reckoned with. He thrives off developing difficult yet liberating change in all his endeavors, and especially marriage.  For example, he may have asked Michelle to tolerate late night calls and visits from male and female campaigners, contributors, senate aides, and sexy young interns.  Let’s not forget those late and all night meetings and business trips. This condition would make any woman uneasy and Michelle is no exception. For this reason, Michelle strikes me as uneasy about some of Barack’s motives in forging creative change. This may have been what Clifford Bryan of the Michelle Obama Examiner picked up when he reported: “…seemingly impromptu displays of solidarity are a little too well rehearsed. They don’t seem quite natural.”

For Michelle with the Sun and Mars on her Midheaven and Saturn on Barack’s Ascendant, issues concerning her husband vying for the presidency equaled risk and sacrifice. She needed certainty. Oprah probably was the driving force in providing Michelle with certainty. If you recall, Oprah became a large campaign contributor who helped Barack acquire campaign contributions, support, and funding. Although this was what Michelle hoped for, it may have led to her having to acquiesce control and make adjustments as indicated in Jupiter quincunx Vertex. But I also believe that when this occurred, it triggered Michelle’s Mars opposition Barack’s Mercury and many arguments (See item 5 under Cons).

As the campaign heated up, death threats rose triggering Michelle’s Saturn opposition Barack’s Mars. This is a major showstopper! (See item 2 under Cons) Michelle’s Saturn says “I restrict” and Barack’s Mars says “I am.” Likewise, Michelle’s Uranus conjunct Barack’s Pluto gives her the power to wage war on any plans she doesn’t understand or deems threatening.  With Uranus in play she can wage war with the percision of a surgeon’s scalpel. This is another major showstopper! (See item 1 under Cons).  Only Barack has the power to control this through his natal Pluto-Vertex. It enables him to help Michelle understand, cope and go with the flow of events.  Without love, this process can be exhausting.

Most astrologers agree that conjunctions involving Uranus and Pluto and oppositions involving Saturn and Mars often create a slow burn in relationships. But, there is also the potential for explosiveness. With this being said, it’s not a stretch to assume that some disputes between Michelle and Barack are major and may have placed their marriage on the rocks more than once. In fact, all indicators show these two may stay angry for days burning with rage. I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that early on in the marriage pots, pans and shoes were hurled. Oh, but when Michelle and Barack make up it’s the sweetest. Luckily, they have the good aspects of the inner planets to thank for bringing them back to why they got together in the first place – love.

Sorry, I didn’t find passionate, hot, spicy, sex in the synastry. This is usually indicated by a Venus-Neptune connection. Ideally, a strong Venus-Neptune aspect should be part of the synastry charts. I did find one for Barack, but it was in the synastry between Barack and Oprah.  Surprisingly, even with the flawed birth time the Ooh la la connection holds.
(https://nudeprovacateuse.files.wordpress.com/2008/12/slide21.jpg or https://nudeprovacateuse.wordpress.com/2008/12/21/oprah-stands-by-her-man/)

The charts below show Barack on the inner wheel and Michelle on the outer wheel.

Let’s hope that for whatever reason these two are together, the good of the nation comes first.  For Michelle that means more kissing and cuddling to counteract Barack’s overachiever adrenaline and Little Sleep. He has three more years to go and a lot on his plate. To dwell any deeper, I’d have to defer to professionals like America’s modern day Eros – Prince:

U don’t have 2 be rich

2 be my girl

U don’t have 2 be cool

2 rule my world

Ain’t no particular sign I’m more compatible with

I just want your extra time and your

Kiss

Don’t know Prince? You can hear a clip of the song Kiss at:
http://s0.ilike.com/play#Prince:Kiss:14501:s461010.10272158.4077037.0.2.127%2Cstd_20c55515bcb04c5ba0900cbbb7620b9a

Peace


Nude Provocateuse
(aka The_Betty)

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